"To many male reproductive physiologists, the G spot resembles the mythical unicorn, the horned white stallion that some women can easily see and know exists. For some women and the majority of men, despite a diligent search, the magnificent creature continues to remain elusive...If the clitoris evolved in humans only to confer upon a woman exquisite delight, what would compel Mother Nature to create a secondary pleasure center in an inaccessible region that is difficult to find and unlikely to be stimulated in the course of prosaic lovemaking? "

From: Sex, Time and Power: How Women's Sexuality Shaped Human Evolution, 2003

A mythical unicorn??? This needs to stop once and for all! The G-spot is not obscure, inaccessible or remote. It is a term that refers to the female prostate, which is made up of real, live erectile tissue, ducts, glands and nerves. And while it may relate to reproduction, it is more often associated with pleasure.

Much of the "confusion" about the G-spot is simply due to terminology, The term, the G-spot, was coined by Alice Ladas, Beverly Whipple and John Perry in 1982 to refer to an area on the upper wall of the vagina, where women reported sensitive to stimulation. In particular, the researchers identified that for some women, a "spot" behind the public bone was most sensitive. There is a basic, anatomical reason for women reporting pleasure from stimulation of the upper wall of the vagina. We now know that like the boys, girls have erectile tissue surrounding the urethra that becomes engorged when we are turned on. This erectile tissue can be reached through that area on the vaginal wall. Ok ­ so now we are getting somewhere.

All women have erectile tissue that surrounds the urethra, running parallel to the upper wall of the vagina and this erectile tissue is responsive. In other words, it can feel good to stroke it. Sound familiar? This tissue has glands that can produce fluid and ducts that lead this fluid out the body through the urethra. Because of this form and function, we now call this network of ducts, glands and tissue the female prostate, and we call the fluid female ejaculate.

The concentration of glands and ducts within the erectile tissue differs from woman to woman. Your G-"spot" is the area along the erectile tissue, which you find most pleasurable when stimulated through the vaginal wall. You may find that where your erectile tissue is more concentrated with prostatic ducts and glands, you are more sensitive. Pleasure is individual; some women like this stimulation, some women do not.

But since there is a lot of sexist, incorrect information out there, including a recent article in the Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology calling the G-spot a gynecological “UFO”! - it is high time to give some clear cut directions through this “mysterious” world of female pleasure. So Leonard, if you are with a gal that likes her prostate rubbed, here are some tips on how to stimulate this easily accessible area.

Tips for the guys (for the girls who love them):

• Just like you can find the penis through pants more easily when it is hard, the female prostate is easier to feel through the vaginal wall when a woman is turned on. If aroused, the erectile tissue increases in size, part of which presses down on the upper wall of the vaginal canal, which can make penetration more pleasurable for some women.
• If you are luckily endowed - no not length wise, but with a penis that's got a slight curve - missionary style sex will easily stimulate the upper wall of the vagina. Otherwise you can try other positions like legs up and feet by the head, or doggie style to rub the upper wall.
• If you are more of a straightforward guy, use your fingers to stimulate the prostate. With your girl lying on her back, take two fingers and put them at the vaginal opening, with your palm facing up. Instead of going straight back and finding a space for your finger, curve your fingers and push them up, following the tissue on the upper wall. By pushing up against the top wall of the vagina, you are stimulating the erectile tissue that surrounds the urethra.
• There are toys, like the crystal wand, which are shaped specifically for targeting this area. Get one and try it out!
• The female prostate can have different shapes, which accounts for different areas of sensitivity. For some women, the area of sensitivity can be close to the vaginal opening, other's midway in, and still others back towards the cervix.

Female anatomy is really that straightforward - some would say as easy to figure out as the male anatomy just outside in! In this day and age, it makes no sense that this information is mucked up and murky.

What we need now is to continue to use women's experiences to push for more research and more mainstream information. There is still a lot we can find out about the female prostate and female pleasure. Though the female anatomy functions as a unit, women report differences in orgasm relating to where the stimulation occurs and for some women the G-spot provides a distinct type of pleasure. So, if you have seen the unicorn, please report your sighting and respond to this week's byte! Tell us what kind of direct vaginal stimulation you like, what area you find most sensitive, and how this relates to your orgasm, so we can spread the word on options for female sexual pleasure. Speak truth to power!

For all the details read the recent work from the Prostate King and Queen: Milan Zaviacic's The Human Female Prostate: From Vestigial Skene's Paraurethral Glands and Ducts to Woman's Functional Prostate and Deborah Sundahl's Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot.