CAKE Byte - Boy, oh Boy

Men have been getting a bad rap in the media these days - from being labeled as Viagara popping, anxiously premature, dysfunctionally erectile nilly willies who can’t deal with the pressure of pleasing all the "Samantha" types out there, to incompetent, immature actors who can't help but fall in love with their beautiful, naked co-stars while the ladies suffer from boredom. "Faced with a city of women who now consider satisfaction to be their birthright, many men have developed chronic performance anxiety." - New York Magazine.

Now, now, we take considerable offense to these supposed "facts," since of course it feels like the classic (and seriously outdated) case of blaming the girl for the guy’s insecurity (could you imagine the scenario reversed…well actually yes we can…it’s been the assumption all along in heterosexual interactions that the guy always gets off) — oh us tempermental women who now demand some satisfaction. That’s right , of course we do. But why are we still asking this question? The present assumption on male sexuality seems to be that it is impossible for men to pleasure a woman every time and as a result the guy can't seem to get it up. Is the situation between men and women really this awful?

CAKE thinks not and we are here to prove it. Last week after much talk about every woman’s little "friend" in pleasure making — her vibrator of course - CAKE wanted to know from the men — "How do you feel about using a vibrator with your partner?" You see we thought that maybe, just maybe all you supposed "insecure" guys might be a bit, well, freaked out by our buzzing friends. Well, well, weren’t we just so pleasantly surprised to hear from you the complete opposite…it seems that you all are graciously and gratitituously incorporating vibrators into your love making mix with the explicit intention of giving us pleasure without a hesitation in the world. In fact it seems that you all are downright loving the results of equal-pleasuring. Forgive us for ever doubting you! Moreover, thank you for providing an evolved vision of male sexuality.

Welcome to the new, new kind of guy. Let’s call him — a CAKE Boy.

Okay, okay - Share, share it’s only fair. Here are some of our favorite responses, out of a deluge of responses, to the vibrator question:

"On a whim I bought my wife a classic style vibrator 3 months ago as a surprise. My plan was to secretly 'introduce' it to her that night while going down on her. Once she was nice and wet I started to rub her with it and then finally use it for penetration. Since then we have used it each and every time we have made love and she has incorporated it into her self pleasuring sessions. Just hearing her describe how she gets off with it sends shivers through my body. And when we are together watching her use it to climax has got to be the ultimate turn on. I don't know how any guy can be intimidated by their partner using a vibe. Quite honestly this new level of sexual pleasure and intimacy we have discovered makes me feel like I'm the luckiest guy in the world." Score!

"One thing not mentioned in "A little help from our friends" is the wearable vibrator during sex. When I first looked at the combo cock-ring vibrator gizmos, available at just about every sex shop for peanuts, I wasn’t sure if this tiny piece of gel would really add much, but then I put it on and surprised my CAKE.Girlfriend with it and wow!! We had a hit!! It’s true that in the past, I would cum most times while she used to cum only with some extra effort, but now any time she wants to go the distance, she puts my ring on and revs me up and off we both go. A mutual benefit:) There is some technique involved… a little extra grinding on the boy’s part helps. Lingering in the, um, fully inserted position, sometimes for an extended period of time, puts the vibe in full contact with it’s target. And there is the added benefit for the boy of having a vibrating cock-ring: feels good and tightens things at the same time." Rockin'!

"My ex-girlfriend used to masturbate while we had intercourse and it only turned me on more. Anything that makes my girl feel even more ecstatic during the "horizontal tango" is good. To any boy who feels otherwise, I'd say: "don't you want to see your girl's face when she's 'right there'? Don't you want to see it every time?" I say, in this case, it's not about you, it's about her and her human right to come every time. It's not only fair, it benefits your relationship and your sex life." Although we are not sure about the "horizontal tango" part, you go boy!

"I love using a vibrator on my partners. I have introduced 4 different girlfriends to the "pocket rocket" and they all have loved it. Nothing is sexier than watching a women pleasure herself in front of you. Then taking over and letting her lay back while you pleasuring her with the vibe. I admit that when I first used one with a partner I was nervous but it is fun and exciting for the both of you." Props for you!

CAKE could not be more proud of all you CAKE Boys! Naysayers beware — the more you promote an antagonistic vision of male and female relationships, the more we will be here to prove you wrong. In fact we are out to go further, aim higher as they say. CAKE invites all of you to nominate your favorite CAKE Boy to be CAKE's "Boy of the Month." Send us your picture, or the picture of the guy you want to nominate with a detailed explanation of why he is a CAKE Boy. CAKE wants to give a voice and a purpose to all of the enlightened men out there who make good lovin' so that us girls get some satisfaction - every time!

*And many, many thanks to all of you who submitted your responses to CAKE - you can check more of them out in the Report section on the CAKE website.

Question of the Week

Here's your chance to tell the world about a "new, new guy" who is worth the title of CAKE Boy. Let us know why he should be in the running for CAKE's Boy of the Month. Submit your answer by sending us your picture, or the picture of the guy you want to nominate with a detailed explanation of why he is a CAKE Boy to cake@cakenyc.com and check out the juicy details from last week's question on "using vibrators in bed" in the Report section.

Tip of the Week

Tasty Delight - the creamy treat that everyone is flocking to in droves - has officially taken over the world. Beware.

Love,
CAKE