CAKE Byte - A Little Help From Our Friends

CAKE recently received an inquiry from a CAKE.Girl that we could not ignore - "How do I introduce a vibrator during intercourse to my partner?" Of course we assumed that you all were using your vibes regularly given all those CAKE Boxes we have sent out recently. But, we know from experience that introducing a vibe with your partner can be, let’s just say, sometimes a sticky issue. We are not sure why, but it seems that some men can be a bit intimidated by our vibrating "friends." Au contraire, mon frere! Boys, we are here to say that "a little help from our friends" makes us girls feel mighty fine - what makes us feel good, will make you feel good, no? Although using a vibrator during intercourse is not always necessary to getting us off, incorporating a vibrator into your sexual interactions is the best way to absolutely, 100% ensure that a girl does indeed have an orgasm. This, in CAKE's opinion, is one of the last frontiers in the battle of the sexes. Let us explain.

We all know that men almost always, always, always have an orgasm during sex, but alas, even though women have made great equalizing strides in other areas of our lives, there is still the false assumption out there that it is okay for women NOT to get off during sex. You know the scenario — it's hot, its heavy, you are both feeling it, but then boom, he gets off and it’s all over, and us girls are left hanging. Think about it — there is not even a name for it… "blue ovaries???" CAKE is on a serious mission to end the separation between the "church" of the status quo and our sexual "state." If we, women and men alike, continue to concede that the sexual interaction can leave us high and dry (even on rare occasions,) well then aren’t we just perpetuating an unbalanced power dynamic and in turn promoting the notion that men and women are not equal sexually??? We say "No longer CAKE people!"

Okay, now that we got that straighten out, it’s time for CAKE to break it down for you. Since no one ever taught you how to actually use a vibrator in the context of "love making," CAKE is here to give it up. There are two categories of vibrators. For these purposes, we will call them - the "innies" and the "outies." Choose wisely — or better yet, experiment with both! Some examples of our favorite outies are the Hitachi Magic Wand, the Pocket Rocket, and the Strawberry Kiss. Our favorite innie is hands down the Rabbit Pearl — whose vibrating ears can also be used as an outie…

Attention to the process leading up to the orgasm and indulging in the moment gives women the opportunity to open up, relax and enjoy the interaction. Women are sometimes just getting started with their first orgasm. Rev her up, and she will be yours for the rest of the night. Our rule of thumb is to use an outie vibe to stimulate the clitoris during intercourse and to use an innie vibe during mutual masturbation. But there are hundreds of different combinations to try out, which only adds to the fun!

The key here in introducing the vibe with your partner is to talk about it! There must be open communication between the two (or three, or four…) of you. Something like "I think it would be really sexy to use a vibrator while you f**k me." Or "can I introduce you to my friend the Rabbit…" Hell, you can always blame it on CAKE, like "CAKE told me that Hitachi Magic Wand will gives us both amazing orgasms, wanna try it?" And our all time fav is "listen honey, making me happy, will make you happy, where are the batteries?" The bottom line for the boys is that no matter what, introducing a vibrator into your sexual repertoire gives you props, looks and feels great while doing it and above all enhances the experience all around. If that doesn’t convince you then here’s another secret — using a vibe will save your tongue from going numb. Trust us.

Remember, most women experienced their first orgasm while masturbating and women who know their bodies and know how to please themselves make great lovers. A woman using a vibe looks amazing — it’s like gaining entry into her own special masturbation ritual. A man, in turn, must have the pleasure-making skills to get her off. At the end of the day, think about vibes as your friends too and invite them over once in a while. With a little help from our friends we might just all get by…

Tip of the Week

When using the Hitachi Magic Wand during sex, tilt it on a 45 degree angle for maximum pleasuring potential.

Question of the Week

CAKE.Girls - tell us how you use a vibrator with your partner.

CAKE.Boys - tell us how you feel about using a vibrator with your partner.

Submit and read responses from last week's question in the REPORT section.

Love,
CAKE