CAKE Byte - The CAKE Gaze
Well now, shouldn't you all be abundantly proud of yourselves! You truly rocked it out in style and bumped it up another notch at UNZIPPED - CAKE's very own coed rock and roll strip club experience. You know you loved your chance to be the rock and roll superstar you never knew you could be - and so did we. From the CLUB.CAKE dancers entertaining your every desire, to all of the amazing onstage performances and the ever increasing collective vibe - you worked it!
But wait, there's even more. By having the opportunity to sit back and watch or straight up interact, you created a space to see what it feels like to be a voyeur, an exhibitionist, an object, a subject, both, neither, anything and everything. The key issues here are CONTEXT and CHOICE. By producing environments where women and men are considered equal, CAKE creates an alternative to the notion of the "male gaze," previously defined by feminists as a power imbalance - whereby women are victims of a male predatory perspective and are stuck in a passive position of a sex object for men's pleasure. CAKE flips the switch by giving a voice to the traditional "object" and allowing both women and men the opportunity to be subject, object or both at the same time. Once you have the choice, you decide what to do with it. We call it the "CAKE Gaze."
The CAKE dancers play a role in facilitating your fantasies but they also have their own personalities, thoughts and agendas - which they love to put out there. The CAKE dancer moves beyond the traditional definition of a sex object towards an ideal interaction where the dancer has as much power and voice as the guests and where strutting one's stuff with attitude and style can be a fun and powerful experience for all. To honor their hard work and say thank you to all of our dancers, who truly entertain, here are a few eye opening, insights straight from their mouths.
You know you love them, you know how good they can make you feel, you know how cool they are - now hear what they have to say about YOU!
| "Being
a Cake dancer feels more participatory than at other venues, as
though an actual unspoken dialogue is exchanged between the dancer
and the "dancees"...not someone leaning back and saying "entertain
me, because it's your job." Also, the environment has an almost
wholesome, exploratory vibe (you can be wholesome and nasty at the
same time)...people feel safe in their sexuality and are generally
less inhibited. That makes it much more fun for me. One time I had
a woman just close her eyes and lean back while getting a lap dance.
She seemed so relaxed and happy... it's a far cry from the traditional
strip-club experience of objectification and subsequent alienation." -Tyler |
| "A little over a year ago, My friend dragged me to this party at a club. I didn't want to go. I was tired of the typical "club environment". Actually I was tired of men in the typical club environment She said I would see something I'd never seen before and that I HAD to go! Two hours later we walked into an eclectic group of women who were free spirited and sexy and a sea of gorgeous men. Hips were gyrating as wife-beaters and bikini tops were peeled off. They had my attention but I was still a bit wary. Just as we found a seat, next to two women giving each other a "Skintimate" lap dance, a fine tenderoni approached my friend and asked her if she wanted a lapdance. She was wearing a daring sticker that read "Ask me if I like 3-ways." They left to a different part of the room and I was left to fend the masses alone. An hour later, I was enticed by the stage covered with goddess like dancers. I coyly walked over and began to dance with one of the dancers. She made me feel like I was the only one in the room as we caressed each other's most intimate of areas. It was purely the most erotic experience in public I'd ever had. That
was my first "CAKE" experience and ever since, I've been having
my cake religiously and eating it too!" |
| "To be a cake dancer is to be an ambassador of the erotic... In every moment, I embody the drive and the emotions of what it is to be CAKE. I am strong, fearless, and so damn sexy. The guests at CAKE may look at me as fantasy or as a mystical urban nymphet. But, anyone can wear glittery make-up, tall boots, and skimpy skivvies. What makes me so different? At the last CAKE party, I started giving a lap dance to an attractive, shy woman. "I've never done this before," She said, "I don't know what to do." I told her, "Just go with it. Trust your instincts." And she did. We started moving together and fell into a groove. Both of us enjoyed the ride. I
am a Superhero of Sexuality. I know who I am and I go with it. I
listen to my gut, that great cauldron of feminine intuition. I trust
my instincts. When it's time to go to work, I'll be there. Wearing
my fierce Go-Go boots and sexy CAKE finery, helping women to trust
their gut and feel it in their bones... one lapdance at a time." |
| "Being
a CAKE dancer gives me the opportunity to be more than a dancer,
more than a sexual object, more than a 'boytoy'. It gives me the
chance to be part of something larger and grander. It enables me
to play a part in a woman's sexual fantasy - she knows what she
wants and what role she wants me to play in it. She's getting satisfied
and I'm playing a part in that - which is what makes CAKE so great.
The women are the focus and everyone is catering to their desires
and as a dancer, I'm just the topping on the cake..." - Alexis |
| "What
I love about being a CAKE dancer is that even though, for the guests,
I can be a fantasy - something for them to look at and enjoy, I
sometimes feel a little guilty because I know I'm really out there
dancing, flirting and profiling for myself. CAKE gives me the ability
to be empowered by what in other cases puts me in a 'object' position.
The fact that women run, mainly attend and are the focus of CAKE
makes the atmosphere and general vibe of parties so much more comfortable,
perhaps because the general sexual roles are being challenged. As
a CAKE dancer, I especially enjoy giving couples dances, because
regardless of how the guy is seeing it (maybe as 'girl on girl'
action), I know the woman is enjoying herself and maybe getting
a chance to so something that she wouldn't ordinarily do in different
circumstances. As a feminist, I know women's sexuality and the women's
roles in sex is still a hot issue, and I feel that CAKE is approaching
it in such an empowering way by not just talking the talk, but allowing
real women to walk the walk." -Taryn |
| "Being
a CAKE dancer is an empowering female experience. In most club atmospheres,
men feel as if their admission price grants them access to touch
or approach woman inappropriately. We enjoy being seen as sexual
people but the balance of power is severely compromised. At Cake,
I am much more uninhibited because the fear factor is lifted - it's
a positive environment that enables us to express ourselves without
feeling taken advantage of. That little bit of respect goes a long
way. And I'm pretty sure the crowd is just as happy with us as we
are with them." -Marnie |
| "Thank YOU--- I have so much fun at CAKE parties, I'd practically do them for free. I think one of the principal reasons I enjoy myself so much as a CAKE dancer is because I'm performing for such an empowered audience. It's so refreshing to entertain for women that are, if perhaps only that evening and in that environment, so liberated---I'm happy to be objectified by them any day. But the more I think about it, it's tricky to really pin down any one thing that makes CAKE so successful. The guests love it, and as a dancer it's always been my favorite gig hands down, and I've done the big mega-clubs, gay and straight. But nowhere else would I be as comfortable with such a high level of interactivity, and that speaks to CAKES incredible energy, where everyone feels like they can let it all hang out. I generally regard CAKE women to be a more sophisticated crowd, so to that end, it's even more empowering for me to be objectified by that kind of woman. These are women that are in touch with their sexuality (or at least getting there) and know who they are and what turns them on. The fact that I can do my thing and it turns them on---that is a pretty cool thing, really. I think another reason I--and many of the female dancers, I'd bet--prefer to dance for women (and CAKE women in particular), is that they realize that it's all in fun. It's crazy and sexy, but it's entertainment---nothing more. Most men (gay or straight) tend to want to turn it into something that it's not. They'll ask a dancer out, slip a phone number, try to take it to another level, etc. Women never do that. They enjoy themselves, give you a little pat on the backside, and send you on your way. (Never has this been more evident than last Thursday - I could even take it as far as kissing a woman during a lapdance and she didn't think anything of it. It was all just part of the fun. If a female dancer did that with a man, the guy would be hounding her the rest of the night.) I
just adore CAKE and everything you stand for, and what you say is
so true. There's nothing like being on the receiving end of a CAKE
GAZE--it's quite an exhilarating thing---for both parties involved." |
Now go check yourselves out - you are truly beautiful. Until next time - Thank you!
Special
Thanks to:
Girlie Action
Formika
The Decadance
girls
Love,
CAKE
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