Feminism has secured our generation of women and men the opportunity to explore and experience sexuality as an every day, normal part of our lives. Women today are both fantasizing as well as living out the real life sexual adventures, experiencing their sexuality as both liberating and empowering. Moreover, we are demanding a sexual culture of our own.   

But yet, even as we have made enormous strides in our personal and professional lives, there still exists a tremendous amount of misconceptions about what women think about, what we do and what we want sexually - and female pleasure is still tremendously controversial. 

Sexual politics exist because straight women's lives, thoughts, and desires are at odds with what mainstream ideas say they should be, and women are finally in the position to demand change.  Here are a few of our pet peeves about the way things stand:

• There is no Playboy equivalent for women
• Women are still not encouraged to masturbate and learn about their bodies 
• There are many women who have never had an orgasm
• Women,  predominantly more than men,  have eating disorders and have issues with their bodies 
• Reproductive health care and abortion is still inaccessible for many women in the U.S. and seriously compromised in the developing world

Other prevalent misconceptions and myths that piss us off:

• Women shouldn't initiate sex
• Women need "foreplay"
• Women aren't visual
• Women don't fantasize
• It's 'easier' for men to get off then for women to get off 
• Women's bodies are more 'difficult' to figure out 
• The male orgasm is the end of sex

Okay, okay we still have a lot to debunk but why is it  a matter of politics and not just about personal lives and sexual preferences? While it may be harder for SOME women to get off then SOME men...these assumptions limit the number of choices a woman has in exploring and creating her sexual identity.  These choices are important for women to decide for themselves what they should think and how they should act.  It's best summed up in the following emails submitted to CAKE – the first from a supportive girl, the second from a skeptical guy who loves CAKE too, but wants us to lose all the politics:  

"Hey Cake - Just emailed you about joining and had a thought I'd like to add. While your organization really appeals to my free-flowing sexual side I also seriously dig your politics. Being a single mother of two little girls I feel I have a vested interest in raising them in a society where women can express themselves freely. Peace." - Regina

No, no - it's not strictly a women vs. men problem as previous generations have espoused. It is the state and history of unequal socio-economic power that has left women out in the cold in terms of sexual power. You see there is a direct correlation between economic power and sexual power - the more economic power one has the more sexual power, outlets, opportunities, permissions they have. On the average, women have gotten the short end of the stick so to speak.  One the other hand, men certainly have sexual roles which could use a generational evolution...Thankfully, due to the enormous strides we are making as a culture, there is an opportunity for women and men alike to enjoy a sexual culture.   But there is still an enormous amount of work to do. 

CAKE will do our part to break down and break through the prevalent myths and misconceptions surrounding female sexuality signifying and representing a new paradigm of thinking and revelation for straight women and their male partners. 

For the record - Women fantasize. Women are sexual beings. Women are visual. Women masturbate. Women like to get off and we certainly know what turns us on.

If you don't dig our politics, then you don't dig us.  Period.  In the words of P. Diddy - "We ain't goin' no where. We ain't. We can't be stopped now cause we're bad girls for life."