If you think sexual fantasies are something only a vixen can dream up, you're not giving yourself enough creative credit. Everyone has a least one lustful longing - whether it's as simple as relishing the idea of getting a sponge bath from a studly stranger or something more explicit, like playing naught games with an entire soccer team. Unfortunately, many more women feel too intimidated to explore X-rated imaginings fully, so they play down their pleasurable thoughts. But the truth is, learning how to conjure up an image of your ideal erotic experience is one of the best ways to boost your bedroom bliss - whether you're doing the mattress mambo with your man or shooting for the stratosphere on a sensual solo excursion.

To discover how to make the most of your metal meanderings, Cosmo consulted sex experts and a few frisky femmes. Read on as they offer advice on how fine-tuning your fantasies can bring the kind of carnal satisfaction you've only dreamed about.

Steal the Sexual Spotlight

Fantasies are like fingerprints - no two are identical. But there is one component that is universally appealing: being the focus of the action, whether that pits you at the center of a sizzling threesome or in full view of a sexual encounter being acted out for your eyes only. "Many women like to watch and be watched," explains Melinda Gallagher, founder of CAKE, a company that produces female-oriented erotic entertainment (www.cakenyc.com actually posts hundreds of women's fantasies on its site). "Some even imagine being overpowered and giving up control. But you can start your imaginary scene simply: Think about someone looking at you while you're undressing and see where that takes you."

View a Frisky Film

Many women associate pornography with mullet cuts, mustaches, and Dirk Diggler-like dudes. If you're one of them, it's time to update your porn perception. "Films serve as visual validation of things we might only dream of trying," says Gallagher, whose top picks include Eyes of Desire by Candida Royalle, and Emmanuelle. Sexy movies come in different degrees - from hard-core skin flicks to the tamer-but-still-titillating scenes you can catch on late-night cable.